Harbl the cat... only a very different man... TLDR

[RobertMcC]

I talked to a buddy with a special needs daughter. He told me this. Again he's a vet, and also has 4 children.

Let him know to reach out to social development to look into resbit care and or request additional hours of resbit care.
Also there are some Facebook groups of parents with special needs children.
They are a great peer support network

[blacksmithden]

I talked to a buddy with a special needs daughter. He told me this. Again he's a vet, and also has 4 children.

Yes. That will be done through their FSCD worker. FSCD will provide funding, but you still have to find someone to actually do the resbit care. I think they provide something like $14/hr for x number of hours per month. They don't watch it too closely though. If you can only find someone for $18 or $20 bucks and hour, then just put down that they were there for a few more hours than they were. You pay the resbit worker, and FSCD reimburses you. They know it's nearly impossible to find someone qualified for $14 or whatever it is, but that's what they're allowed to give out. They know damned well that people fudge things a bit to make stuff work. At least it gives mom and dad a chance to go out to dinner once in a while without the kids. The challenge is finding someone you trust with your kids, in your home. For years, we were never out together for more than 2 or 3 hours at a time. When you've had to keep an eye on the kids for every hour of every day for years, it's hare to just cut loose and let it go.