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I met a girl at the hunting course, she got my phone number from the instructor and started sending me dirty pictures. If I wasn't already taken she might be a keeper! lol
How to get the fiance into shooting?
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The biggest mistakes I've seen guys make are:
1. Inadequate ear-pro
2. Guns that hurt.
Starting someone off with slugs isn't going to make them enjoy shooting.
1. Inadequate ear-pro
2. Guns that hurt.
Starting someone off with slugs isn't going to make them enjoy shooting.
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Drache
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Took a girl out shooting one time and handed her the .22LR, she got upset because I gave her the sissy gun instead of the 12 gauge
She handled the 12 like a pro
Made me stop and think lol.
Girl tells you she's a virgin yet starts pulling moves that you only see in porn really makes you wonder
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Girl tells you she's a virgin yet starts pulling moves that you only see in porn really makes you wonder
some people are just fast visual learners
Drache
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Mine is on her way, i was even wondering if she would sign for my license. There was no way i was going to have guns in the house and now we talk about them. I got her to handle my "scary" 9mm rifle loll, she couldn't help but smile when she shouldered it. Inside i was like Yesssss!
Petamocto
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One year ago I was in the same position you were in, except with a wife of a decade. I was very much fighting a "Never going to happen in my house" mindset.
What worked for me was having a guy who knew a lot more about guns than I do come over and basically teach her a streamlined process of what we teach in the Army for an introduction to firearms. Same concepts to enforce an environment of safety, like first bringing up that there is no ammo present, first explaining how guns work with pictures only, designating a safe area, and then finally bringing some out.
Then it was on to getting comfortable holding them, and eventually the marksmanship principles of how to effectively shoot the things. That process was a whole evening on a Friday night, and Saturday we went to a proper range. She started off with a 22LR on a bipod from 25m, and by the afternoon she was shooting 9mm pistols, and an M14 from the standing.
She absolutely loved it, and for her what she loves is that it's a big stress reliever from the hours she spends every day in an office environment, and being annoyed at people over Excel and Powerpoint.
Because of that day, I got my PAL last summer, last fall I got three rifles (including a 22LR Remington 597 for her), and I just got my R-PAL, bought a Glock, and I'm about to buy an AR15 and a 22 revolver. The only real stipulation was that they had to be uuber secured when not in use (which is 99% of the time), and I wasn't going sit there in my chair hugging them while watching TV. And that they are, always unloaded, in redundant heavily locked cases, with ammo in a separate area, and the kids will never see where the keys are.
This has all happened in one year, and my wife started off very much as an anti. Not a fanatic about it, but definitely on the other side of the fence.
What worked for me was having a guy who knew a lot more about guns than I do come over and basically teach her a streamlined process of what we teach in the Army for an introduction to firearms. Same concepts to enforce an environment of safety, like first bringing up that there is no ammo present, first explaining how guns work with pictures only, designating a safe area, and then finally bringing some out.
Then it was on to getting comfortable holding them, and eventually the marksmanship principles of how to effectively shoot the things. That process was a whole evening on a Friday night, and Saturday we went to a proper range. She started off with a 22LR on a bipod from 25m, and by the afternoon she was shooting 9mm pistols, and an M14 from the standing.
She absolutely loved it, and for her what she loves is that it's a big stress reliever from the hours she spends every day in an office environment, and being annoyed at people over Excel and Powerpoint.
Because of that day, I got my PAL last summer, last fall I got three rifles (including a 22LR Remington 597 for her), and I just got my R-PAL, bought a Glock, and I'm about to buy an AR15 and a 22 revolver. The only real stipulation was that they had to be uuber secured when not in use (which is 99% of the time), and I wasn't going sit there in my chair hugging them while watching TV. And that they are, always unloaded, in redundant heavily locked cases, with ammo in a separate area, and the kids will never see where the keys are.
This has all happened in one year, and my wife started off very much as an anti. Not a fanatic about it, but definitely on the other side of the fence.
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harbl_the_cat
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A few points to add - I think it's important to genuinely convince your fiancée that even in a moment of rage, you will never resort to violence towards her AND your gun ownership will never be a source of danger in your relationship.
My wife knew I was a gun nut when we were dating and just before we were engaged, I had the honour of having my guns taken away by the police through a false, malicious public-safety call made by a personal opponent. My fiancée stuck with me through the court proceedings (which made me know she the one - because that was 6 months of pure hell and I would not have gotten through it without her).
After I got everything back, I became an even bigger gun nut than before but instituted an absolutely unequivocal personal philosophy to NEVER appear threatening or violent to anyone and to do everything in my power to NOT alienate or make enemies.
Especially to those I love, but also to people I just met.
The most important thing to do that is to properly manage relationships with EVERYONE.
I try to not quarrel with or transgress with ANYONE, and when I do, to genuinely seek to make amends.
When it comes to guns the BIGGEST danger isn't from misuse, negligence, or accidents. It's from the government sending agents to take them away from you.
As it stands, the way they do that is by taking advantage of the fact that people have falling outs with one another.
Ambiguously restrictive laws and snitch lines are setup with which the State can justify sending in tac-teams to bust down your door in the middle of the night, hold you up at gun point, hog-tie you in front of your neighbours, cart off your cherished personal property as if it were trash, and shame and terrorise your entire family.
If you have ANY personal enemies make sure you realize that at any point in time, they can call the RCMP and file a baseless public safety concern against you and make that a reality.
Make friends, not enemies. Foster a mentality that makes it clear that such is a priority to you.
If you have guns and act like a bad*ss, that doesn't bode well for you, and it probably doesn't do much to lay your fiancée's fears to rest. (It also sets you up to get your guns taken away from you by the government).
When we were first married, my wife was VERY concerned that this might happen again. In fact, that was the biggest resistance I got from here when it came to owning guns. She has seen how I have reformed my personality and now she just shrugs her shoulder and laughs it off when Canada Post drops off, big, heavy brown boxes.
My wife knew I was a gun nut when we were dating and just before we were engaged, I had the honour of having my guns taken away by the police through a false, malicious public-safety call made by a personal opponent. My fiancée stuck with me through the court proceedings (which made me know she the one - because that was 6 months of pure hell and I would not have gotten through it without her).
After I got everything back, I became an even bigger gun nut than before but instituted an absolutely unequivocal personal philosophy to NEVER appear threatening or violent to anyone and to do everything in my power to NOT alienate or make enemies.
Especially to those I love, but also to people I just met.
The most important thing to do that is to properly manage relationships with EVERYONE.
I try to not quarrel with or transgress with ANYONE, and when I do, to genuinely seek to make amends.
When it comes to guns the BIGGEST danger isn't from misuse, negligence, or accidents. It's from the government sending agents to take them away from you.
As it stands, the way they do that is by taking advantage of the fact that people have falling outs with one another.
Ambiguously restrictive laws and snitch lines are setup with which the State can justify sending in tac-teams to bust down your door in the middle of the night, hold you up at gun point, hog-tie you in front of your neighbours, cart off your cherished personal property as if it were trash, and shame and terrorise your entire family.
If you have ANY personal enemies make sure you realize that at any point in time, they can call the RCMP and file a baseless public safety concern against you and make that a reality.
Make friends, not enemies. Foster a mentality that makes it clear that such is a priority to you.
If you have guns and act like a bad*ss, that doesn't bode well for you, and it probably doesn't do much to lay your fiancée's fears to rest. (It also sets you up to get your guns taken away from you by the government).
When we were first married, my wife was VERY concerned that this might happen again. In fact, that was the biggest resistance I got from here when it came to owning guns. She has seen how I have reformed my personality and now she just shrugs her shoulder and laughs it off when Canada Post drops off, big, heavy brown boxes.
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I agree with TV. The biggest dampner is often the noise. Double up on the hearing protection or give her very good muffs. Plugs do no protect against the concussion of high pressure rounds.
At all cost, avoid the shooter with .223 or more with a full muzzle break.
One of the principles of motivation when teaching new people anything is to go for quick and easy wins. Seven yards or shorter is a good distance with a large target. I like the targets that show hits with a colourful spash like the "Shoot and See" or Dirty Bird types.
If possible, end with a coffee with other shooters so that the chatter can reinforce the fun you've just had.
Everything else has been well covered already.
harbl_the_cat
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So a thought to my above post.
For guys, remember you're playing with fire when you mix romantic relationships with private gun ownership.
That's not to be discouraging - but I personally got burnt and I know a few guys that got burnt too and also had their guns taken away due to a messy breakup/divorce.
With a fiancée in particular, it's NOT enough to just get her into shooting. You HAVE to get her into understanding and accepting what the lifestyle of gun ownership entails. Sadly - it entails the possibility of armed government raids on your private property and the threat of jail-time over victimless paper-crimes (at worst). That said, it also entails the possibility of being part of a very exciting and fun community which I honestly belief offsets the risk of government violence (at best).
What I would also recommend is to get involved with an active club that has large events for membership - matches, fun shoots, BBQ's, fundraisers, etc. This is a bit of a generalization, but I think women are generally more community minded then men are, so it really sets their minds at ease about something seeing other's (and particularly other women) doing it too.
Moreover, with a wife/fiancée ALWAYS build and maintain that relationship above any and all other relationships. Make it the priority and if it ever seems like it's in jeopardy, do everything in your power to restore and rebuild it.
For me personally, I KNOW if I ever lose my wife, I lose ALL my guns (and I have a lot of guns). As seriously as I take gun ownership - I take my marriage even more seriously.
For guys, remember you're playing with fire when you mix romantic relationships with private gun ownership.
That's not to be discouraging - but I personally got burnt and I know a few guys that got burnt too and also had their guns taken away due to a messy breakup/divorce.
With a fiancée in particular, it's NOT enough to just get her into shooting. You HAVE to get her into understanding and accepting what the lifestyle of gun ownership entails. Sadly - it entails the possibility of armed government raids on your private property and the threat of jail-time over victimless paper-crimes (at worst). That said, it also entails the possibility of being part of a very exciting and fun community which I honestly belief offsets the risk of government violence (at best).
What I would also recommend is to get involved with an active club that has large events for membership - matches, fun shoots, BBQ's, fundraisers, etc. This is a bit of a generalization, but I think women are generally more community minded then men are, so it really sets their minds at ease about something seeing other's (and particularly other women) doing it too.
Moreover, with a wife/fiancée ALWAYS build and maintain that relationship above any and all other relationships. Make it the priority and if it ever seems like it's in jeopardy, do everything in your power to restore and rebuild it.
For me personally, I KNOW if I ever lose my wife, I lose ALL my guns (and I have a lot of guns). As seriously as I take gun ownership - I take my marriage even more seriously.
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Why would it be obsolete? Very good description of how to accustom the uninitiated to firearms (or really, any new/scary thing)? If at all possible, starting away from the firing line of the rifle range is best, and sitting in one's comfort zone of their living room is a great place to start.
Me either? Are you worried your (after much trying, presumably now to become ex-)wife will scream blue bloody murder and get your stuff taken? Always have a buddy you can store your guns at?
"For me personally, I KNOW if I ever lose my wife, I lose ALL my guns (and I have a lot of guns). As seriously as I take gun ownership - I take my marriage even more seriously."
Huh ????
I've been married 47 years to the same woman and have always hidden things from her. My Dinky Toy and Wonder Woman collections will NEVER be found!!
If you want to give your marriage a good test, forget about guns and confess to something you did 22 years ago while in a stupor from your chemical of choice.
I'm not saying fabricate a total snow job but "storm troopers" at the door ?? Really ??
Unless it's totally safe, everything I say or do is carefully packaged by the PR / HR expert who lives in the back of my head. I didn't survive 47 years by being stupid.
Huh ????
I've been married 47 years to the same woman and have always hidden things from her. My Dinky Toy and Wonder Woman collections will NEVER be found!!
If you want to give your marriage a good test, forget about guns and confess to something you did 22 years ago while in a stupor from your chemical of choice.
I'm not saying fabricate a total snow job but "storm troopers" at the door ?? Really ??
Unless it's totally safe, everything I say or do is carefully packaged by the PR / HR expert who lives in the back of my head. I didn't survive 47 years by being stupid.
harbl_the_cat
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I hide things from my wife too BUT I don't do or hide anything that would seriously undermine or marriage.
These days, a lot of people are getting into serious romantic relationships without much long term consideration or commitment. A lot of these relationships are ending on bad terms, with one, both or multiple parties walking away with a lot of resentment and hostility towards one another.
As a gun owner, that's got to be one of the most dangerous places to be in because an angry ex has a LOT of power to get the State to take away a man's guns.
That's why I think it's important to make sure I maintain my marriage and I feel being a gun owner really enriches and causes our marriage to stay strong and grow stronger.
I'm no different than any man. I have my temptations and short comings - but if I had an affair my wife would never forgive me, run off with our children, and probably call the RCMP to take away my guns.
Furthermore, if I ignore my wife, grow distant and cold with her - eventually, I know she'll fall out of love with me and be in the right to want to separate from me - again not a place I want to be in.
Lastly (although not exclusively) if I do something unbelievably stupid - like max out a line of credit or credit card on a handful of really cool guns that I would have to pay interest on - she would be infuriated, think I'm crazy and start having doubts about or marriage.
The point I'm getting at is a healthy marriage (or steady relationship - whatever you want to call it) is absolutely critical above and beyond just getting the partner to like shooting.
It also helps getting the partner to understand and accept it. I have a great relationship with my wife and she accepts that I volunteer as a match director for days at a time, or that once a week I'll go shooting, or that I'll go to board meetings once a month.
It doesn't make her happy, but I make sure I do other things to make her happy, such as:
-buy her a house
-build up enough of an income that she can be a stay at home Mom and homeschool our kids
-compliment her regularly
-tell her how much I love her, how beautiful she is and how happy she makes me
-don't complain endlessly about how crappy my day is (that's what this place is for)
-reassure and encourage her that she's doing the right thing
-listen to her when she tells me what's on her mind, what worries her, and what her problems are
-try not to judge, criticize, or try to offer an opinion about her problems unless she explicitly asks for it
-carry out whatever reasonable task she asks me to do (take out the garbage, install shelves, call the cable company, etc.)
-take her out on romantic dates every once in a while
-take care of the kids when she feels overwhelmed so she can get time to recuperate
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Petamocto
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If Air has to do the "cleanse" I'm thinking of it requires a bending over, a firehose, and a bucket
You need to go sit in the corner and think about what you've done young man
Have you noticed how that happens Mr. Peta?
Actually I was pulling on Mr. Harbl's chain a bit and don't have a prayer of one upping him as regards care and feeding of a wife goes. In fact I sold the only house my wife thought she owned and so she is now "houseless" and forced to live an unstable life in a trailer. I do prepare all her meals though and she thinks I'm close to perfect now which is a delusion I try not to shatter.
I do think there are good and better ways of introducing anyone to the gun game. I liked what you did. "Easy does it" is probably a good path is most cases. For example going to a high level IPSC match might be exciting for some but intimidating for others. Some gentle exposure at a quiet range would likely work for most at least the first time. I think new people need goals that are easily met. Big noisy guns and fools doing mag dumps beside the recruit won't likely impress.
I do think combining the outing with some social time has merit. With two or more converts, they will likely reinforce just how positive the experience was and most of all how much fun shooting is.
I've taken a few people to the range for the first time and don't know who benefited the most. There's an old saying that goes: " If you really want to learn something, try teaching it". I'm always the winner when I introduce newbies to our games.
harbl_the_cat
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Tee hee... "Mr. Peta"
One thing is my wife's not really into shooting, even though I constantly badger her to get her PAL. Without it, she can't qualify for Firearms Legal Defence insurance, and so I deny her access to all the family guns without me being present.
It's pretty nice - since it gives me the opportunity to build some pretty sweet man-caves where she just can't go into, hence the "hiding stuff" quip.
I realized this morning counting all my old registration certificates and receipts in the 8 years I've been shooting (7 years dating/engaged/married), I've gone through about 50 guns, bought, sold, traded and given away. I suspect if she regularly went into my man-cave/gun rooms, that number might be quite a bit lower.
Still, I do my best to keep her happy and while she KNOWS I've gone through that many guns she doesn't quite have a full understanding of the implications therein. She still accepts shooting as a part of me being who I am and loves me for it.
I'm a really lucky man.
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